Clearly, It Is Preferable to Be Face-To-Face When You Break Up!
You can salvage virtually any relationship as long as you meet certain conditions.

Eli Vix - 10/14/09

Almost nobody wants to deal with a relationship ending. But when the relationship has become unbearable somebody has to be the first to take action. Many couples stay in troubled situations far past their real expiration date simply because they know how hard it is to breakup.

Is there a best way to attempt to end a relationship in such a way that neither party really gets hurt? It may or may not be possible. Sometimes a breakup becomes a real battle with angry shouting and things being thrown at each other or out the windows. In other cases the relationship simply dies a slow death ending when someone finally has the courage to say it is over.

It's important to clarify why you no longer want to be involved in this romance. The first reason that pops into your head may be different than the real problem.

Once you are sure you want to end the relationship, the next step is to get honest. This means that when you discuss this with your partner you must be honest and fair with both yourself and the other party.

Schedule a time that's convenient for both of you to discuss breaking up. It is generally better not to do this by phone, but rather in person. However if one of the issues in the relationship is distance, you should go ahead and discuss a breakup without waiting.

Clearly, it is preferable to be face-to-face when you break up. Try to be compassionate when ending the relationship. If you want to stay friends after the breakup, you need to end the romantic ties with understanding and concern.

Don't do or say anything that will make your partner be defensive. Keep the focus on the things you have learned as well as the memories you have that will always be cherished. Be there during the breakup. Your partner could be very emotional and you will need to respond to any needs they have.

In order to get through this transition time, is important to give your partner any space they need and try not to consider anything a personal attack on you.

Do not, however, let them dump any guilt on you. Since you are beginning a new period in your life in which your ex will not be involved, a clean break is favorable for you both.

Just because you're ending this relationship does that mean that you should never consider getting back together or reconnecting? Does the book have to remain closed on this relationship? No one besides you can make that decision. You can salvage virtually any relationship as long as you meet certain conditions. Couples that are willing to take the time and make the effort during this period will get through this as an even stronger couple.

However, ending this relationship with a clean break is the best way, especially if you are determined to walk away from the relationship.

I followed a plan written by T 'Dub' Jackson. His plan picked me up by my bootstraps and helped me get the love of my life back. His plan is called, "The Magic of Making up" and to see his plan.  Download The Magic of Making Up System.

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